5 Best Marriage Secrets Uncovered By Divorced People

In 25 years of studying marriage, Dr. Terri Orbuch, research professor at the University of Michigan and author of the new book “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship,” has found that some of the best relationship advice comes from people who are actually divorced. They brought up the same five issues that they would improve if they had the chance to do it all again.

1. Money. “Many divorced singles say that money was the number one source of conflict in the early years of marriage,” she tells Yahoo! Shine. She recommends that each partner evaluate their own approach to spending and saving money and discuss with their spouse early on. She says there is no one-size-fits-all-financial plan, but couples need to determine their own rules and adhere to them.

2. Affection. Another surprise was that men crave affection—but not necessarily sex—more than women. She recommends carving out time for regular cuddling, kissing, hand holding, and saying “I love you.”


3. Blame. Those who found blame in factors such as being incompatible or too young experienced less anxiety, insomnia, and depression than those who blamed their former partner or themselves for a break-up. Examine what went wrong in the relationship instead of assigning individual blame, suggests Orbuch, and think about how you can resolve conflict better next time.

4. Communication. Orbuch says a trap many couples fall into is “maintenance” rather than true communication. She suggests having a “10 minute rule” every day when you, “Talk to your partner about something other than work, the relationship, the house, or the children.” The key is revealing something about yourself and learning something about your spouse.

5. Move on. If you are irked by thoughts of your partner’s old boyfriend or girlfriend or of a fight that happened weeks ago, you might not be interacting in a healthy, positive way. If you can’t let go of your anger, her book outlines a number of exercises including writing a detailed letter to the person you are angry at—and burning it.

Did you find these tips helpful for your relationship? Tell us how you maintain a happy marriage!

Source: Yahoo News

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Former Student Moves Back In With High School Teacher

The California teen who made national headlines when she and her high school teacher moved in together told a local television station that the two are back together.

Jordan Powers, 18, told a reporter for Sacramento TV station CBS13  that she and James Hooker, 41, are a couple again. The interview was conducted on the steps of Hooker’s apartment in Modesto through a screen door. In an ABC news interview two weeks ago, Powers said she had called off the relationship with Hooker after allegations that the teacher sexually abused another student more than a decade ago. Powers packed her bags and moved  to Ohio with her mom.

Tammie Powers, mother, told the Modesto Bee that she thought the two were seeing each other again.  After they moved away, Hooker called Jordan “relentlessly,” she said. ”It is awful,” she said. “This is what pedophiles, predators do. They isolate them from family.”


Hooker was arrested on April 6 for allegedly having a sexual relationship with a 17-year-old student he allegedly met at a high school conference in 1998.  He entered a not guilty plea and remains out on bail. After the break-up, Powers  said Hooker had lied about the affair and the student had “lost everything for this guy” in the ABC interview. Neighbors say Powers moved back in recently.

In February, Hooker quit his job at James Enochs High School and left his wife and three children to be with Powers. She dropped out of high school.  The two told national talk shows that they didn’t have a sexual relationship until she turned 18.  That point is under investigation.

Do you agree with Tammie Powers, that her daughter should end her relationship with James Hooker? Share your thoughts with us!

Source: Yahoo News

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