Signs That Your Job Doesn’t Suit You

Is your job an ominous presence you should exorcise from your life? You certainly don’t need to be M. Night Shyamalan to see the signs.

1: You’re a Loner at Work. You’re not a social pariah, yet you have no friends at work. Shallow as it sounds, maybe you need to be in a work environment with colleagues who match up with you a little better.

2: You’re Ashamed of Your Job. Here’s a sure sign you’re in the wrong job. Whether you manufacture porn or toilet paper, take pride in how well you do your job. If you aren’t proud of your work you’ll never be able to derive satisfaction from it.

3: Your Workload Overwhelms You. It’s normal to feel a little frazzled now and again, especially amid pressure-cooker deadlines and quarter-end quotas. But it’s not a good sign if you routinely carry on like a decapitated chicken. You’re in the wrong job if you have more work than you’re capable of doing in the allotted time.

4: You’re Stagnating at Work. Unless you use and develop most skills regularly, you’ll lose them and fall behind. Renew your membership to a trade association, keep current with required training or work a minimum number of hours in your specialization. You’re in the wrong job if you can’t or don’t have time to do these things.

5: There’s No Growth and Development in Your Job. You’re in the wrong job if you’re not exposed to learning opportunities or aren’t taking advantage of them. If you can’t access company funding, take advantage of your fellow colleagues and clients. The key is to keep an open mind and recognize the chances you’re given to grow and develop.

If you recognize yourself a little too much in these menacing signs, then use them as a wake-up call. You owe it to yourself to look around for something worthy of your time and energy.


Source: Yahoo News

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How Do I Know If Someone Likes Me?

When you like someone, it can be tough to tell if they like you back. But if you’re ever going to get together, you have to start somewhere. Figuring out if someone likes you is the first step toward a healthy relationship. So here’s how to do that.

Instead of wondering if someone likes you, you should first ask yourself if you really like them, says psychotherapist Elsbeth Martindale, PsyD. Her advice: Take it slow. Check out the person’s values — do they match yours? Remember, this should be fun. If you’re not having fun — and more importantly, if you’re not feeling good about yourself with someone — then walk away.

What if you really do like that person and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back? “Trust your gut,” says Didi Zahariades, MA, a teen life coach in Portland, Ore. If they’re consistently showing you attention, you’re hearing from them often, “that may mean something,” Zahariades says. If she keeps hanging out with you, that may mean something. If someone makes a lot of eye contact with you, that can be a good sign. But some people who are really shy find it tough to make eye contact, so you can’t be sure about that.

You might also ask your friends what they think. They may know better than you do. If your friends say “no, that person is not into you,” (or “that person is bad news”), listen to them, even though it’s not what you want to hear. Trust that they’ve got your back — you’d do the same for them.