Helicopter Parents — The Crutch Of Today’s Generation

Helicopter Parents --- The Crutch Of Today’s GenerationIt is but natural for parents to worry about their child’s health, welfare and safety. But sometimes, some parents take it too far as to impede their child’s emotional development. They hang around their child’s elbow during every activity — may it be going to school, playing, making homework, job hunting (yes, they do!) — and interfere with every decision that has to be made by the child. Thus, the term: Helicopter parents.

‘Too controlling’

It may seem sweet when the kids are still little, but when they grow into teenage years and adulthood, is hovering still appropriate? Is it even appropriate during the younger years of the child?

These are parents that are too watchful, too careful, too suspicious, too controlling, and too nosy. Loving your child does not mean that you should watch over him and do everything for him every step of the way. After all, there are things that a child has to learn on his own, right?

Allowing children to explore the environment will help them develop skills that they will need in the future. When a child stumbles while running or falls off the bike, he has to learn to pick himself up, dust himself off, and carry on. This is in the literal and figurative sense of the example. This is one ability that a person has to learn in order to succeed in life. Deprive your child that ability and he becomes a wimp.

‘Experience life fully’

Parents, you need not hover over your kids to show them your love and concern. Advice them on important things and let them go. But remind them that you will always support them in their success and comfort them through their failures. There is a fine line between being a good parent and being an overbearing one. We, as parents, should also learn know the difference between the two and not to overstep that boundary.

Truly, it is difficult to watch your child’s painful efforts to climb the ladder of success, or to look at that scraped knee after your child has enjoyed a rowdy running game with his friends. But to deprive them of the chance to enjoy and experience life fully — can you bear to take that away from them just because you want to protect them from harm? Trust your child to be strong enough to stand the troubles that may come his way. After all, the baby bird learned how to fly after he was pushed off the nest by the mother bird. Why can’t we do the same?

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South Africans Hold All-Night Prayer Vigils For Ailing Nelson Mandela

South Africans Hold All-Night Prayer Vigils For Ailing Nelson MandelaSouth Africans have been holding an all-night prayer vigil for former President Nelson Mandela, outside his former home in Soweto. The crowd have been singing and saying prayers for Mr Mandela’s health, on what is now his 20th night in hospital.

‘Still there’

South Africa’s first black president – an icon of the anti-apartheid struggle – is suffering from a lung infection. President Jacob Zuma said on Thursday that the 94-year-old’s condition had improved, but still remained critical. Mr Zuma cancelled a visit to Mozambique to visit Mr Mandela in hospital.

Meanwhile Mr Mandela’s daughter Makaziwe said he was “still there” and responding to touch. But she accused some journalists of being like vultures, waiting for her father to die.

’94 balloons’

Emotional crowds gathered outside the hospital, adding messages of support for Mr Mandela, known by his clan name Madiba. Children released 94 balloons – one for every year of the ex-president’s life – into the air in his honour.

Correspondents say South Africans now seem resigned to the prospect of his death. As crowds prayed in Soweto on Thursday evening, South Africa’s ruling African National Congress (ANC) said it would hold vigils each day that the former leader remained in hospital.

Mr Mandela is revered for leading the fight against white minority rule in South Africa and then preaching reconciliation despite being imprisoned for 27 years. He was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1993 and was elected president the following year. He left office in 1999 after a single term. Mr Mandela retired from public life in 2004 and has rarely been seen at official events since.

What lessons have you learned from Nelson Mandela’s fight against white minority rule? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!

Source: BBC News

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