Why Dads Should Stop ‘Babying’ Their Kids

Why Dads Should Stop ‘Babying’ Their KidsThe world has recently celebrated Father’s Day and most of us have taken time to go out with our dads and show our love and appreciation for them. Of course, for the previous weeks, we have been bombarded with tips on what to buy for the occasion. But if we were to ask our dads about what they really wanted for a present, would they really choose among an array of stereotyped daddy presents or opt for the intangible things instead?

‘Change in attitude’

Maybe our dads don’t really need the new neckties, the geekiest gadgets, the poshest clothes, or the dorkiest tools for Father’s Day. Maybe deep inside, what they really want (and need) is a change in attitude for their kids. Looking at the direction that today’s generation is headed for, I am quite convinced that’s what we really need right now.

Most of us have been raised by authoritarian parents who weren’t afraid to inflict punishment and discipline, that when we became parents, we have opted to become the opposite of that. We have befriended our kids to the point that they already have little regard for our authority as parents. That is why kids nowadays are the ones exerting authority on their parents.  Children nowadays have become self-entitles, spoiled, rebellious, violent, and insensitive. They think their parents should serve them and that they don’t have to care for their parents.


‘Role model’

While showing love and compassion on kids is not bad, dads should also balance out his function as the father. Dads, help your kids prepare for their future. Instead of them making demands on you, try exerting a few demands on them so that they will be motivated to strive on their own and to earn what they think they are entitled to. Try enforcing rules and limitations and expose them to different experiences that can teach them valuable life lessons. Teach them to care for their siblings and parents, too. Stop making them feel as if you are scared of disciplining them. Teach them to become good citizens and good persons in general. Of course, do all these with love.

It’s not easy being a father. Dads will also feel the roller-coaster emotion of raising a child and keeping the family together. Add to that the demand of working to make ends meet, and you’ve got a real challenge for the fathers of today’s time. This is why dads should strive all the more to function as real dads so that when it’s their kids’ turn to become parents, they will have a role model to look up to.

How do you show your love and appreciation for your dad? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!

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Mothers — Among Life’s Greatest Gifts

Mothers --- Among Life’s Greatest GiftsThe twelfth of May has been a celebration of motherhood, wifehood, love, and family struggles. Mother’s Day is one of the many days of the year when we get to show appreciation and love to our mother (or for others, whoever their mother figure is). As we reflect on that special day, we also reflect on all the sacrifices that moms give for their children.

‘Fulfilling and frustrating’

Motherhood, they say, can be both fulfilling and frustrating. Fulfilling. When their baby says “Mama” for the first time, when that child cuddles with mom during sleeptime, when that toddler trusts and relies on mom fully, when the school-aged child makes a personalized birthday card for mom, when that teenage kid asks mom for advice about school and love, when that young adult strives to bring her grandkids over ever weekend, when that middle-aged adult openly shows affection and care to the ailing mom, and when that fully-grown adult says “I love you, Mom.” Those are some of the most fulfilling moments of motherhood.

Frustrating. Yes, a lot of times, being a mom can be so frustrating. When the baby simply won’t stop crying, when the toddler says “No” to everything you say, when the middle-aged child picks a fight with his classmate, when that teen rebels against mom, when that young adult elopes with an undesirable partner, when that middle-aged adult struggles with divorce and addiction, and when that fully-grown adult simply cannot be reached and says “Leave me alone, Mom.” These are some of the most crushing moments of motherhood.


‘Forever’

And yet, the fulfilling moments usually outshine the dark times of being a mother. Mothers are indeed amazing persons. They can go to great lengths just to provide for the needs of their kids. They can withhold their emotions long enough when they are hurting emotionally, and just vent out when they can’t take it anymore, only to rise up the next day and strive harder to become strong. They endure so much physical pain and discomfort during pregnancy and child birth, and so much mental and emotional exhaustion when their husband and kids abuse or neglect them. Simply amazing.

Motherhood is not just some ordinary job wherein one can resign from anytime she feels she cannot keep up with the responsibilities anymore. Being a mother is forever. And forever, moms will go through the crazy cycle of fulfillment and frustration with their kids. And for that, all the moms in the world deserve to be appreciated, cared for and loved deeply. We should treat every day as Mother’s Day.

Have you taken time to tell and show your mother how much you love her? Tell us about the greatest sacrifice that your mom has given for you!

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