Should We Fear The MERS Virus?

Should We Fear The MERS VirusThe world has been shaken recently by the announcement of a new virus called the MERS-CoV, which is found in Saudi Arabia. According to the director of the World Health Organization, this virus is a “threat to the entire world.” So, should we fear the MERS-Cov?

‘We know so little’

The WHO has named the novel coronavirus as Middle Eastern Respiratory Syndrome coronavirus (MERS-CoV), since majority of those who have caught the illness have been to Saudi Arabia. What seems to be the most alarming thing about the virus is that we know so little about it. At present, nobody can tell how fast it develops and how exactly it can be controlled. And that’s where the MERS virus gets its advantage.

‘The same pattern’

Remember when the world was struck with panic when the Sever Acute Respiratory Syndrome (SARS) virus was announced? Right now, we can almost see the same pattern coming out here. A new virus develops. Somebody dies. The WHO announces what it is. Everybody scrambles to research about it. More people die. More research about the treatment. A positive result comes out from the research. Life goes on.

That sounds simple enough. But right now, while we are still at the beginning of that pattern, it is quite understandable why everybody is afraid of the MERS. And with good reason. If you don’t have enough knowledge about that virus, you don’t know how to defeat it. And until we find a very good way to manage and defeat that deadly virus, it will remain deadly, and we will remain cautious and afraid.

Have you been hit by a coronavirus before? Do you think scientists will find a way to manage the MERS-CoV soon?

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Can In-Laws Help Build or Destroy Your Marriage?

Can In-Laws Help or Destroy Your MarriageWhether you are in good terms with your partner’s parents or not, your relationship with them can take a lasting toll on your own marriage. According to a new research, it could even be an indicator of the probability of a lasting marriage.

After 26 years of research, Terri Orbuch, a psychologist and research professor at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research, found that men with a close relationship with his parents-in-law have 20% lesser risk for divorce. However, for women who had a close relationship with her in-laws, a risk for divorce is 20% higher.

This actually makes sense, since a lot of men are enthusiastic about having a new family upon marriage.  They are able to gain a new set of parents without the complications that they have with their own parents. In addition to that, men do not worry about the effect of in-laws on their marriage as much as women do. Their first priority is to be a provider first, and being a husband is only secondary, so having in-laws is not threatening to them.

On the other hand, the case is more complicated with women. She will most likely be closer to her in-laws if she wants to change something about her husband or is trying to get them to be on her side when it comes to child-rearing. This type of relationship, however, will make the husband feel more alienated, or even furious.

In addition to that, a closer relationship with in-laws can result in meddling and crossing of boundaries. The woman may tend to feel that her husband’s parents are interfering with her role as a wife or mother. This situation can be very stressful for women.

If you really want to get along with your in-laws and strengthen your marriage, you should get to know your partner’s parents well. Don’t just stick to holidays and special occasions only. Get to know them as real people and show them that you truly care for their son or daughter. But you should also set boundaries. Do not tell them every single thing about your married or family life. If you have kids, don’t let your in-laws use your children as a way to meddle with your life and criticize your parenting methods. Still, don’t insult them, even when they are not around. Talk about your issues with your partner to avoid having him or her on the defensive side.

Last, but not the least, put your relationship above everything — even above your in-laws. Don’t let your own parents belittle or walk over your partner. After all, this is a great way to show everyone that you meant every word of your marriage vows.

Have you had any trouble with your in-laws? Tell us how you resolved them!

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