5 Surprising Facts About Infidelity

5 Surprising Facts About InfidelityCan you spot a husband prone to infidelity? If he’s unhappy with his wife, he’ll cheat, right? Not necessarily. Here, experts explain this phenomenon and dispel other popular cheating myths.

Fact #1: Most men are still in love with their wives when they cheat.

Men who cheat haven’t fallen out of love; they’ve become unsatisfied with the current state of it. While they’re fulfilled in some areas, like being a provider, the romance may be missing. To avoid this in your marriage, plan nights out together, set aside time for sex and discuss hopes and dreams–not just workdays and your son’s last soccer game.

Fact #2: Men usually cheat with women they know.

Intimacy expert Mary Jo Rapini explains, “A lot of women think that all cheating women are floozies-not true. The relationships are usually friendships first.” A good idea: Make sure your husband feels more connected to you than to his business partner.

Fact #3: Women cheat just as much as men, and their affairs are more dangerous.

An Indiana University study shows that men and women cheat at the same rate. But “the reasons the sexes cheat are different,” says relationship expert Charles J. Orlando. He explains women are more likely to cheat for emotional satisfaction. But if it’s just sex, it’s less about attachment and more about a hurtful mistake.


Fact #4: A wife often knows her husband’s cheating.

How could Tiger Woods’s ex, Elin Nordegren, and Arnold Schwarzenegger’s ex, Maria Shriver, not have known what their high-profile husbands were up to? They probably did, but couldn’t bear to acknowledge it.

Fact #5: The wife’s not to blame if her husband cheats on her.

Realize this: If your husband is unfaithful, it’s not your fault, no matter what people say. “When a man cheats, he’s making a conscious choice to do it,” says Dr. Brosh. “The idea of being pushed into the arms of another woman is an expression, not a reality.”

Do you agree with these given facts? Tell us how infidelity has rocked your own relationship and how you toughed it out!

Source: Yahoo News

Image: Authors Den

The Truth About Dating Younger Men

There a lot of things to think about when it comes to dating outside your decade. Herewith, the good, the bad and the ugly of dating young:

The good
Dating someone younger keeps you young, says Jane Ganahl, former singles columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. Plus, there’s that whole sexual-compatibility thing. “If we can believe that nugget that women and men hit their sexual primes at different times, then a 25-year-old man and a 40-year-old woman is the best of all possible worlds,” she says.

The bad

A lack of life experience can be both a blessing and a curse, though. On the one hand, it means your date’s baggage compartment is more likely to be free of ex-wives and kids. On the other, they may still be on close terms with their inner child, a laundry-impaired brat who can’t get enough of video games and/or Family Guy.

The ugly

None of us dates in a vacuum, of course, and remarks by friends and family can have a souring influence on even the sweetest May/December romance. Men have to deal with “vicious” comments, too. And then there’s that whole cougar thing. And let’s not forget nature’s cruelty.


“At the end of the day, the 30-year-old I was dating really wanted to get married and have kids, and I wasn’t interested in that,” says Ganahl, who documented this and other relationships in her memoir, Naked on the Page. “I already had a daughter in college. So that’s another downside. You can’t really ‘work on’ the fact that you’re older.”

The big picture

Dating someone older has its challenges, too. Men raised in a more traditional era can be controlling and/or unwilling to accept independent behavior. And society makes certain assumptions about the older man/younger woman match, too. But despite the issues, there are couples that make it, says Sarah, a 36-year-old reporter from Seattle who’s been married to a man 10 years her junior for the last four years.

Readers, it’s your time to speak out! Do you think relationships between two persons from different generations can actually last? Shout out your thoughts below!

Source: Yahoo News

Image: Single Minded Women