Should You End This Relationship or Not?

There’s no such thing as a relationship without challenges. However, some stumbling blocks are merely garden-variety annoyances, while others are bona fide deal-breakers. Below are five ways to know whether your romance is doomed or likely to go the distance.

1. Conflict Resolution
When you hit  periods of conflict, does it become about who can win and/or who can hurt the other more effectively? Is it characterized by your partner thinking almost exclusively about what is good for him or her, not about what’s good for you or the relationship? If any of these statements ring true for you, it’s probably a wise decision to get out.

2. Irritating habits versus deal-breakers

Some of the most troubling and potentially deal-breaking problems one can face with a partner are immaturity, addiction, unresolved or untreated mental health issues and abusiveness. You may have always known since childhood that if a partner was abusive to you — especially if he laid a hand on you in anger — that this was your deal-breaker.


3. Focus on yourself for a bit
Often, the easiest way to find clarity about your relationship involves shifting your focus away from it and to the center and joy of your own life instead. Once you identify a couple of these life goals, you’ll enter into a process of addressing all the barriers to your own growth — some of which may involve your existing relationship — all of which should provide clear reasons why leaving your current relationship would be preferable to sticking around.

4. Consequences of ending the relationship
If your intuition tells you that your partner may have a volatile reaction, that’s a pretty good sign that walking away from your relationship is a good idea. If you’re concerned that your partner may engage in self-harm, let key people in his or her life know that your relationship is ending — and that you are concerned about your partner’s welfare.

5. Life without your partner
Remember that having love, approval, kindness and appreciation for yourself is at least as important as getting it from someone else; if these feelings are impossible to have while in your current relationship, it’s time to get back into having a loving, supportive connection with yourself.

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What a Person Notices First in a Date

Before hitting the meet-and-greet scene next weekend, what’s really going to make you more attractive to the opposite sex — and what’s a waste of your dating dollars? Check out these interesting tidbits we dug up for more budget-conscious men and women.

1. Men say that having gorgeous hair trumps a curvy figure. According to a recent survey conducted by Pantene, 60% of men surveyed would rather date a woman with great hair than noticeable curves — and 74% of them said they notice a woman because of her hair.

2. Guys find pink or red lips more alluring than the sexiest pair of stilettos. In a recent Match.com survey of over 24,000 men and women, 88% of respondents said their date’s laugh made a bigger impression on a first date; only 12% picked shoes.

3. Women looking for real relationships are more impressed by traditional love tokens than an expensive ride. While women found men showing off a flashy product to be more attractive when it came to dating, that same trait didn’t make men more desirable as marriage partners or for long-term committed relationships.


4. Men and women agree: being physically fit makes someone more attractive and relationship-worthy to them. This may be a no-brainer, but if you’re thinking of having something more than just a fling, spend your dollars getting rid of your doughy middle and strive for six-pack abs instead.

5. Bad hygiene is a universal turn-off, regardless of what you’re wearing. A recent Match.com poll asked nearly 35,000 men and women to name their biggest turn-off on a date. The responses included bad breath (11%), dirty fingernails (1%), body odor (16%) or all of the above (72%). Not surprisingly, bad hygiene is a mood killer for romance.

Source: Yahoo News

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