Could Empathy Be The Secret Key To Happy Marriage?

Are you empathetic? Is your partner? It might be the secret to a happier marriage. According to a recent study from Harvard University, being able to accurately read a partner’s emotions–and believing that your partner is trying to understand your emotions–is related to couple relationship satisfaction.

The authors suggested that for men, being able to understand and be empathetic to their partner’s negative emotions may feel threatening to the relationship, but women don’t seem to find negative emotions threatening. Findings suggest that effort, not just accuracy, positively impacts relationships.

Listen for emotional messages. The emotional message isn’t the same as the words that your partner is saying. Your partner may be criticizing you for not spending enough time together, but the emotional message may actually be, “I miss you and I’m afraid I’m not important to you.”


Push the pause button on your own emotions. When your partner is expressing something critical, it’s easy to respond defensively. Before reacting, take a deep breath and try to slow down your own emotional response so you can hear the emotion behind the criticism.

Reflect back your partner’s emotional plea. Instead of coming back defensively with, “What are you talking about? We just went on a walk yesterday, and we went to dinner last weekend!” respond to your partner’s emotional plea by saying something like, “You really miss me and want to spend more time together. Thanks for letting me know. I love you.”

Even if you read the emotional message inaccurately, your effort to understand your partner’s emotions will pay off! Now, tell us about the empathy level in your own relationship!

Source: Yahoo News

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Rupert Murdoch’s Take On Scientology

With the recent splash of Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ divorce over the weekend, Rupert Murdoch, News Corp. chief executive and media mogul, publicized his reactions on the news via Twitter. And indeed, his tweets included remarks about Scientology that could possibly create waves in the media world.

Murdoch tweeted: “Scientology back in news. Very weird cult, but big, big money involved with Tom Cruise either number two or three in [hierarchy].”

Murdoch, who owns Fox News, Wall Street Journal and New York Post, tweeted another “cult” comment right after the first one: “Watch Katie Holmes and Scientology story develop. Something creepy, maybe even evil, about these people.”

According to the Los Angeles Times, Cruise is often linked with Viacom’s Paramount Pictures, and has done movies for 20th Century Fox — which is owned by News Corporation. He is also “known for being prickly about being challenged about his involvement with Scientology.”


Still, Murdoch stands by the lines he tweeted: “Since Scientology tweet hundreds of attacks, expect they will increase and get worse and maybe threatening. Still stick to my story.” And when a user asked about Murdoch’s take on Mormonism, he replied: “Mormonism a mystery to me, but Mormons certainly not evil.”

Scientology was created by L. Ron Hubbard in 1952. It is a body of beliefs and related practices to his self-help system, Dianetics. Scientology’s teaching involves the principle that humans are simply immortal beings who have forgotten their true nature. It uses auditing, a method of spiritual rehabilitation where a person aims to consciously relive painful or traumatic experiences in their past in order to liberate themselves of their negative effects. Scientology is a tax-exempt religion in the United States.

What do you know about Scientology? What do you think gave Murdoch the impression that Scientologists are “creepy” and evil”? Do you share the same opinion with him or not?

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