Toddlers And Tablets — Helpful or Detrimental?

Toddlers And Tablets --- Helpful or DetrimentalNowadays, toddlers with the latest game consoles or tablet computers are already a common sighting. It is amazing to note that these little kids somehow know how to figure out the controls of these complicated gadgets. But is letting your child play with electronic gadgets be beneficial to learning or detrimental?

‘Flip side’

According to a research from the University of Wisconsin, kids from 2 to 3 years old were more responsive to video screens that prompted them to touch them compared to an ordinary video screen. This could mean that touch screens can help build the educational potential of toddlers.

However, there is a flip side to this. According to psychologist Dr. Aric Sigman, children should be steered away from too much exposure to the screen media because this can lead to addiction or depression. Each child born today will have spent one whole year infront of these screens by the time they are 7 years of age. That thought is admittedly quite staggering.

‘Ample balance’

It all comes down to wise usage, good parenting, and discipline. Since it would seem that tablets, iGadgets, and game consoles are here to stay, parents should make sure that they only download apps and software that can contribute to their child’s educational learning. Toddlers should be provided an ample balance of indoor and outdoor interactive play time. And computer exposure should be limited to up to two hours daily.

Like any tool, computers and tablets can help children develop confidence and skills, if used properly. So, use it properly.

Do you allow your kids to use electronic gadgets freely? Do you believe it is detrimental to their educational development?

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Teaching Children How To Share

Teaching kids how to share is not an easy feat. Even adults have difficulty getting the hang of sharing. No matter how parents try hard to teach this value to their children, finding the right balance is really difficult.

For most kids, learning to share doesn’t come easily. But following certain steps and empathizing with them can be parents’ gateway to helping this value take root in their kids. This is according to Harvey Karp, MD, author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block: How to Eliminate Tantrums and Raise a Patient, Respectful, and Cooperative One- to Four-Year-Old.

Until they reach the age of 3, most children are incapable of grasping the concept of ownership. But according to Karp, toddlers usually have their own sense of fairness. “With most of us it’s about 50-50,” he says. “For toddlers it’s more about 90-10. It’s, ‘Here, I’ll keep 90% and I’ll give you this one little toy.’”

The first reflex that parents usually have is to correct the child. However, we should refrain from doing so immediately. Parents have “to acknowledge the needs and the desires of the child,” says Karp. “When we just drop in and try to solve it, that doesn’t feel good. Children need to know their desires are appreciated and respected.” So, when your kid practices sharing successfully, show that you appreciate the gesture by verbalizing a sincere “nice job.”

Karp says children appreciate positive comments from a third party, much like adults, too. This technique can leave a good effect for both you and your child. Here are a few more tips on teaching your kids how to share:

Play dates. Allow your child to select his or her most precious possession to set aside before play date starts. Siblings can also have some toys set aside just for them.

Explain it clearly. According to Karp, children can better grasp the concept of sharing if you use the term ‘taking turns.’ This is because when they were still infants, they have learned to take turns in “baby conversations” with their caregivers. Explain that the same rule applies with toys. Emphasize that everyone gets a turn.

Point out real life examples. Karp says if you see live and in-action situations where sharing is demonstrated, immediately point it out to your child. This is “an effective way of planting the seed.”

When children learn how to share at a young age, they can grow to be compassionate and unselfish adults who are able to understand the value of sharing. Now tell us how you yourself learned how to share!

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