How to Catch Someone Lying

Everybody lies. We asked body-language expert Patti Wood to help us spot hidden clues that serve as red flags. That way you’ll know if what you’re being told is a lie, or if you’re just a paranoid wacko with trust issues.

“Your central nervous system acts like a human lie detector,” Woods explains. “So when you think someone is lying to you, it reacts with a stress response.” Problem is, it’s not always on target. It works better with people you know because you already have an idea of how they act when they’re not lying.

Most liars practice their stories from beginning to end, so asking them to convey information out of sequence can trip them up. So if your idiot buddy starts to tell a long story about why he was so late meeting you at the bar, interrupt him with questions rather than letting him tell the story from beginning to end.

Hands in pockets, head pointed toward the floor, and shoulders slouched are all good indications that a person isn’t being forthcoming. If you question a part of a person’s story and react strangely — she Hulks up and gets angry, or laughs a little too hard, or begins to fidget with her hair — she may be trying to mislead you.

Just because someone touches his nose or mouth, or blinks excessively, doesn’t mean he’s lying. If you notice it from the start of the conversation, don’t pay attention to it. But since stress can trigger nerves around the nose, eyes, or lips, if the tics begin right when you think the lying begins, you might be onto something.

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How Do I Know If Someone Likes Me?

When you like someone, it can be tough to tell if they like you back. But if you’re ever going to get together, you have to start somewhere. Figuring out if someone likes you is the first step toward a healthy relationship. So here’s how to do that.

Instead of wondering if someone likes you, you should first ask yourself if you really like them, says psychotherapist Elsbeth Martindale, PsyD. Her advice: Take it slow. Check out the person’s values — do they match yours? Remember, this should be fun. If you’re not having fun — and more importantly, if you’re not feeling good about yourself with someone — then walk away.

What if you really do like that person and you’re trying to figure out if they like you back? “Trust your gut,” says Didi Zahariades, MA, a teen life coach in Portland, Ore. If they’re consistently showing you attention, you’re hearing from them often, “that may mean something,” Zahariades says. If she keeps hanging out with you, that may mean something. If someone makes a lot of eye contact with you, that can be a good sign. But some people who are really shy find it tough to make eye contact, so you can’t be sure about that.

You might also ask your friends what they think. They may know better than you do. If your friends say “no, that person is not into you,” (or “that person is bad news”), listen to them, even though it’s not what you want to hear. Trust that they’ve got your back — you’d do the same for them.