It is but natural for parents to worry about their child’s health, welfare and safety. But sometimes, some parents take it too far as to impede their child’s emotional development. They hang around their child’s elbow during every activity — may it be going to school, playing, making homework, job hunting (yes, they do!) — and interfere with every decision that has to be made by the child. Thus, the term: Helicopter parents.
It may seem sweet when the kids are still little, but when they grow into teenage years and adulthood, is hovering still appropriate? Is it even appropriate during the younger years of the child?
These are parents that are too watchful, too careful, too suspicious, too controlling, and too nosy. Loving your child does not mean that you should watch over him and do everything for him every step of the way. After all, there are things that a child has to learn on his own, right?
Allowing children to explore the environment will help them develop skills that they will need in the future. When a child stumbles while running or falls off the bike, he has to learn to pick himself up, dust himself off, and carry on. This is in the literal and figurative sense of the example. This is one ability that a person has to learn in order to succeed in life. Deprive your child that ability and he becomes a wimp.
‘Experience life fully’
Parents, you need not hover over your kids to show them your love and concern. Advice them on important things and let them go. But remind them that you will always support them in their success and comfort them through their failures. There is a fine line between being a good parent and being an overbearing one. We, as parents, should also learn know the difference between the two and not to overstep that boundary.
Truly, it is difficult to watch your child’s painful efforts to climb the ladder of success, or to look at that scraped knee after your child has enjoyed a rowdy running game with his friends. But to deprive them of the chance to enjoy and experience life fully — can you bear to take that away from them just because you want to protect them from harm? Trust your child to be strong enough to stand the troubles that may come his way. After all, the baby bird learned how to fly after he was pushed off the nest by the mother bird. Why can’t we do the same?
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